Dating sites: why you need to try less

Okcupid dating site every day – four million posts. Co-owner of the portal Christian Radder, one of the few who has access to content and can see the content of the correspondence (yes, here it is, confidentiality on the Internet), decided to analyze all this unimaginable stream of information, complete timid expectations, unexpected revelations and desperate flirting. And what he discovered?

Since Okcupid dating site appeared long before the era of social networks and smartphones, the first messages posted there were similar to real letters. The current messages on average “weigh” 100 signs, and users of the site have long been accustomed to this. The best messages, that is, those who received the most responses, consist of only 40-60 signs. And the time of their creation is calculated … seconds. This was the first thing that surprised Christian Radder (CHRISTIAN RUDDER) was how to write so quickly?

Study the system

To understand this issue, he chose 100 thousand messages: from the shortest, one sign with a length, to the longest – at 10 thousand signs (do not be surprised, on each dating site there are several “writers” who are ready to bring down the flows of lyrical revelations for the interlocutorabout anything). The schedule turned out to be indicative: the upper corner was occupied by a love message written in 73 minutes. It has never been edited and took about four printed pages. Note that not a single response came to him. In the opposite corner of the schedule – the left lower – a message was placed, which was edited and corresponded in total 373 times until it acquired its final form: “Hey”. It also remained unanswered.

Of course, these are extremes. Between them is the bulk of the messages, and the system shows that they were created by two keys of the keys, but at the same time consist of hundreds of signs. How can this be? That’s right, copy -pasters work in this territory, and the name is legion. Having once created some kind of text, they saw that it was working, and from now on they send it to many women (or men). Sometimes, of course, slightly editing the message.

Get a response

Not very beautiful, true? But our second discovery – it is precisely such messages that receive responses! Here one of them is simple and artless, but very personal (if you don’t know that it was sent to 42 women): “I smoke too. But he tied it when he went on a campaign in May. And now I wake up and Fuck – I want a cigarette again. Sometimes I dream of working in the Mad Men office. You saw the last Le Corbusier exhibition in Moma? Sounds intriguing. I recently saw Frank Jerry (SP?) in Montreal and how he used computer modeling for the home in Ohio “. The creator of the message wanted to make acquaintance with a woman who, like him, smokes and is interested in art. What is “(SP?) “, Does not lend itself to decryption and undoubtedly adorns this uncomplicated text. What is the result? Five answers exactly from the type of women he was looking for!

When Christian Radder told his friends and acquaintances about the triumph of copy

-pasteers on his website, he was answered that it was not interesting to do so, ugly and even dishonorable. But the language changes, the letter changes and its genres, like all living things, it acquires new forms, sometimes unexpected, sometimes ugly. There is a pinnacle of the epistolary genre, and there is “Wanna Talk?”(” Do you want to chat?”) … or it changes the essence and form of human communication?

“Let me notice that almost everything in my house and everything that stands on my table is a copy, one of the many created by someone in factories,” says Christian. – To have breakfast, I was noted among the same as me, and chose one of the same burgers. Templates work “. Our smoking fan of art and walking does the same thing that they did before: optimizes efforts, saves time and collects its crop.

For more details see. In the book CH. Rudder “What are we, when we think that no one sees us” (“Who We Are WENKNO ONE’S LOOKing”, Crown Publishers, 2014).

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